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Picking a Passionate Subject


Now it’s time to choose a subject that resonates with you, and to carve out your unique perspective. As we discuss at length in other training modules, the MOST powerful thing you can ever do when giving a speech is to choose a subject that really means a lot to you.

When it comes to a maid of honor speech, your words will have greater impact if you feel truly passionate about the subject. Again, you may use humor, but your goals are to leave the audience with something memorable, and to connect with the bride and groom on a level that’s meaningful to them.

To do this, start by thinking about your relationship with one or both of them. Think about the best aspects of the relationships. Find something that really resonates with you.

Or, think about your experiences over the years with them. Find a time or an event that is particularly meaningful, perhaps having gone to school together.

Once you’ve developed an idea about which you have some real passition, it’s time to find your own, unique perspective  to share with the audience.  Think about your words as the catalyst that compels the audience to see the bride and groom’s history, affection for one another, etc., in a way that they may not have previously considered.  Having something to say to the audience that they didn’t expect or think of is a great way to make your speech a home run.

To do this, stop and think. What about this day is special that may not be so obvious? You don’t want to say “today is special because Matt and Rachel are getting married” – everybody KNOWS that already.

But if you remember something not so obvious but equally important it can have a positive, memorable impact.

For example, a delay that occurred in getting to this day since Matt was deployed overseas, or Theresa wanted to finish her masters first, or any other unique-to-them aspect. When you have a unique perspective, you can say something like “I was thinking about what today really means. It finally hit me that today is really about celebrating Matt and Theresa, and how their level of devotion to one another was so strong  that they wouldn’t let thousands of miles hold them apart.  And yet, at the same time, they trusted each other enough to avoid rushing into things, and built their careers first, knowing that they’d still be there for one another.”

With your strong subject and unique perspective in mind, you’ll find that the words you choose will resonate with the audience.