Category: Getting Started
Comfort Zones of the Communication Kind
The simple reason most people aren’t great at public speaking is it’s out of their comfort zone.
Consider this fact: Most people find themselves forced into some sort of situation that requires public speaking before setting a goal to make improvements to their communications skills, especially those skills associated with being able to get up in front of an audience and communicate effectively. People largely avoid public speaking and stick with the behaviors they are already comfortable with.
Repeating behaviors that “work” is common in every species on Earth. Birds fly south for the winter, flowers bloom at a certain time, many people get married, most people get up and go to work every day. We repeat behaviors that work because they work. If we all randomly tried new patterns every day we might actually experience failure more often. The old saying “practice makes perfect” relates.
Being called to do something like give a speech is a break from a comfort zones that has long since been established, so it feels chaotic, and it can therefore seem unpleasant and uncomfortable, and it is therefore something that most people won’t bother forcing themselves to do unless an extrinsic motivator comes along.
We hope by now that you see how this all comes together. You are here for a reason, whether it’s self imposed or extrinsically delivered. Regardless of how you got here, we are very excited to share the best way to proceed from here.
Here are a couple of simple things to do in your life to help you become more intrinsically motivated and to break free of your comfort zones
1) Find things that motivate you, a lot. Ask yourself what you LOVE, what you feel passionate about.
2) Work towards making your motivators intrinsically satisfying to you.
3) Take control over the reasons you are presenting to others in the first place.
4) Break free of your old comfort zones and patterns by learning new communication techniques.
Consider the age-old question, “What great thing would you attempt if you knew you could not fail?” It’s an amazing question. Together we’re going to create our own version of this question when it comes to public speaking:
What would your life be like if you smashed through your comfort zones and motivated yourself intrinsically to learn new patterns of communication? What will it be like when you’ve mastered presenting to an audience and sharing your thoughts and views with the world? Will you have more control over your life? Won’t you accomplish so much more?
We think you will! Start by stepping outside your comfort zones with intrinsic motivation. Few people do this consciously, and it will change your life.