Category: Getting Started
Your answers to the assessment questions tell us that you are here because you want to be. You’re ready and willing to speak in public, and that is fantastic!
Since the old saying “If it isn’t broken, don’t fix it” is as true for speaking in public as anything else, we’re only going to touch on motivation types again briefly.
Some people are fine with the task of presenting in front of a group and do it willingly, but it’s still worthwhile to make sure we tap into the power of the intrinsic motivator.
Consider these questions:
1) Am I speaking in public willingly – but only because someone else wants me to do it in the first place?
2) Am I approaching the task with the goal of satisfying someone else by speaking in public (such as a teacher), or am I doing this for me?
3) Am I considering the broad benefits of speaking in public, or am I only focused on getting through one presentation?
If you are already doing this for yourself, and you already have broad goals in mind, such as the potential to dramatically improve your life, then you are already ready to move on to the next area. Head on back to the Skill Building Area! If you feel you might benefit from shifting your approach a bit more, read on.
You may have just discovered when answering the questions above that you are willing to speak in public and to learn about it, but that you are doing it more for someone else than you initially thought. Perhaps you are pleasing your boss, a parent, your teacher, a friend with a wedding toast, or perhaps even your spouse. There may be nothing wrong with speaking publicly for others, but we just don’t think it’s as powerful as doing it for yourself.
To make your motivators more intrinsic, consider these questions:
1) Am I choosing to speak in this situation?
2) Does the goal of the presentation align with my personal goal?
If you aren’t speaking in a situation that you want to, it’s hard to say you’re intrinsically motivated. In fact, it’s impossible. You are being extrinsically motivated.
There are ways to view the same situation differently to change the motivators into something that works more for you. Here are some specific examples:
1) School: Try thinking of the big picture. You may be in school now, but what about the future? Will building public speaking skills today lead to life skills that open up career or life opportunities for your future? When it’s your turn to get up and speak, relish the opportunity. Being great at this may mean the difference between a fulfilling career and a not-so fulfilling career, whether it’s in business, in law, sharing your findings with other members of your industry, in entertainment, you name it. Think about how being a confident public speaker may improve relationships throughout your life, not just at work. Think about how finding your voice enables you to share your unique ideas with the world.
2) Work: Consider how very effective public speakers often get the best positions in a company, make the most money, and have the most control over their destinies when compared to people who avoid the spotlight. These may be extrinsic motivators, but as we have shown, extrinsic drivers can turn to intrinsic drivers remarkably swiftly. If you see the benefit of public speaking, you might evolve from “I’m only giving the speech because the boss asked me to” to “I’m giving a speech because I want to BE the boss.”
3) A social event, such as a wedding toast: If you’ve been willingly called into action for something like a wedding toast, consider how really wonderful it is to share funny or moving stories about a person you love or respect with a larger group of people. This feeling of creating positive energy is truly rewarding and can be an amazing intrinsic motivator. The chance to honor others at an important event is very special, particularly for the person asked to deliver the message. Honor – an almost universally important concept - is enough to intrinsically motivate just about anyone into decisive action.
With this in mind, it’s time to choose. Make a list. What aspects of your next presentation are seriously motivating you?
How did you do? Have you found the right reasons for being here? Have you found the right internal motivation for speaking in public?
We hope so! Armed with the right self motivators, you are ready to begin your quest to speak in public.